Sunday, November 9, 2008

Will you be Jesus to her?

Do you have a passion to pray for the salvation of your birthmom?
Are your kids praying for their birthmom to know Jesus?
Can your birth family see Jesus in the way you respond to them?
As the adoption process began you prayed for the right birthmom that would place a baby in your arms.
You prayed fervently after the baby was born that the birthmom would follow through with the adoption plan.
After placement, you prayed that there would be no legal conflicts and you prayed for finalization.
Then you considered it done.
But truly, your role of being Jesus to your child's birthmom was just beginning.
Have you considered the fact that God brought you to adoption not just for you or the baby, but so that you could be a witness and encouragement to your birthmom?
We have only a window of time to lead these women to Christ, but you have a lifetime.
We constantly look for opportunities to share Christ while we work with a birthmom, but many times we have seen adoptive families destroy that testimony by treating a birthmom like an enemy.
Your child's birthmom is not your enemy. She does not wish to be a threat to you. She does not desire to cause you pain. She is a woman who, for many different reasons, found herself in an unplanned pregnancy and chose, not only give her child LIFE, but chose to give her child a BETTER LIFE by making an adoption plan with you.
When a birthmom seeks information about New Life, we quickly tell her that we only place babies with Christian families. Regardless of her religious beliefs, this brings her comfort. She believes that this will give her child security. She believes that the adoptive family will more easily love her for who she is.
Your challenge is to seek the Lord and follow Him as He leads you to be "Jesus" to this very important person in your life.
What does it look like to "be Jesus" in your relationship with your birthmom?
It means that there is no fear. It means that you quickly consider her feelings before your own. It means that you pray for her, love her and share a bit of your lives with her for the purpose of her eternity.

4 comments:

Hayley said...

When we began the adoption process the first time, I remember being completely overjoyed at the thought that Em might be instrumental in leading her birthmom to Christ. It sometimes breaks my heart when I hear about choices she's making, but I continue to pray that God will bring her entire family to the place where they know God in an intimate, personal way! Thanks for the reminder to pray, Cindy!

C-LSchafer said...

Wow, what a reality check. We have felt a heavy heart in the last couple of weeks for our birth mom. Whether she is dealing with decision of abortion vs. adoption or has already decided to make an adoption plan. I can't tell you how much we pray that if we are not the ones who are involved in her child's life, that someone else can be and show Jesus to her in a way that will touch her heart forever. We do not know who she will be or how it will happen... but we know that God is in complete control and are so excited to see how He can use us as a light and example of compassion, mercy, and love. Thank you so much for the reminder and encouragement to keep that part of our adoption in the forefront of our minds!

Rusty and Jennifer said...

"Your child's birthmom is not your enemy. She does not wish to be a threat to you. She does not desire to cause you pain. She is a woman who, for many different reasons, found herself in an unplanned pregnancy and chose, not only give her child LIFE, but chose to give her child a BETTER LIFE by making an adoption plan with you."

Thank you for that, Cindy. For all that you do. For loving, supporting, praying and for being a voice for birthmoms.
I am who I am today because you invested in me.

Sweet Patience said...

Hi, I just came across your blog. This is an interesting topic. We are in the middle of a domestic adoption, and initially we were concerned about the semi openness of the domestic adoption process. However, after being educated on the process we put the fears behind us and humbled ourselves. It is not about us.
These children do not belong to us, they are loaned to us for a season.
Nice blog! Feel free to visit my blog.
Kristy